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Most people have fewer friends than their friends do, and it is a sampling effect

the gist

Most people find that their friends have more friends than they do. Sociologist Scott Feld first observed this in 1991. The explanation is sampling bias: people with many friends are more likely to be someone's friend, so a random friend is more likely to be a well-connected person. Someone with very few friends is rarely anyone's friend. The same pattern shows up in other networks, such as people's sexual partners, who on average have more partners than they do.

how it works

Popular people appear in many friend lists, so when you pick a random friend you are more likely to land on someone who is popular. Your own friend count is typically lower than the average of your friends' counts for the same reason.

so what

The friendship paradox shows that a person's local view of a network can be badly skewed by its structure. It helps explain why social media can feel as if everyone is more popular than you.

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