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People overestimate how much others notice their appearance, a bias called the spotlight effect

the gist

The spotlight effect is the tendency to believe that other people notice our appearance and behaviour more than they really do. We are at the centre of our own world, so we assume our mistakes and clothes are obvious to everyone else. In a 2000 study by Thomas Gilovich and colleagues, students who wore an embarrassing Barry Manilow T-shirt guessed that about half of observers would remember it, but the actual number was far lower. Research has repeatedly found this overestimation to be very common. Psychologists suggest being aware of the bias can help people worry less about small social slips.

so what

The spotlight effect explains why embarrassment often feels much bigger in the moment than it is to other people. Knowing about it is a practical tool for reducing social anxiety.

fun fact

In the original experiment, students who wore a Barry Manilow T-shirt estimated that many observers would notice it, far more than actually did.

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